Making friends as an adult can feel a bit like learning a tricky new dance move—you know it’s possible, but sometimes, you’re not quite sure where to start. Even in spaces where we share common interests—like a dance class—it can still feel like everyone else already has a partner, leaving you unsure of how to step in. If you’ve ever found yourself wishing for a stronger connection with your fellow dancers or wondering how to turn casual class acquaintances into real friendships, you’re in the right place. Let’s take a look into the art of making friends through dance.
The importance of making friends as an adult
Friendships aren’t just important in childhood—they’re essential at every stage of life. When we’re young, friends help us navigate the uncertainty of growing up, offering support, perspective, and a sense of belonging. But as adults, meaningful connections can be just as vital, especially in a time when many of us spend our days working from home, making it easier to feel isolated.
Friendships remind us that we’re more than our responsibilities, providing encouragement during tough times and joy in everyday moments, and reminding us that we are not alone. While it may take more effort to build new friendships without the built-in opportunities of school or college, connecting with others can bring a renewed sense of community and fulfillment.
How to make friends as an adult in dance class
If you’ve been hoping to build friendships or make small connections, even brief social interactions—sometimes called “social snacking” in the book Social Chemistry by Marissa King—can boost your mood and overall well-being, and dance class is the perfect place to make that happen!
At Powerhouse Dance, we believe human connection is key. Being relationship-focused and community-driven are two of our core values, and we want to support you in making those connections—if that’s something you’re looking for.
So, how can you make friends in an adult dance class? Here are six tips to help you build friendships and feel more connected in your dance community.
1. Be intentional & proactive
Making friends in dance class won’t happen overnight—it takes a little effort! Chances are, others feel just as shy or uncertain about initiating conversation as you do. Sometimes, you have to be the one to take the first step. The good news? You already have a built-in connection—your love for dance!
Try this: Next time you’re in class, challenge yourself to say “hi” to at least one person. Even a small greeting can open the door to future conversations.
2. Introduce yourself
You don’t need to know anyone before stepping into an adult dance class, but that doesn’t mean you can’t make the effort to connect with the people around you. If you’ve been taking the same class for a while but still don’t know anyone’s name, take a moment to introduce yourself. It can be as simple as:
“Hey, I see you in this class every week! I’m Rachel.”
A quick introduction helps lead the way to conversation and makes future interactions feel more natural. After a week or two, you’ll likely feel more at ease starting conversations, and maybe even branching out beyond dance topics. Consider connecting on social media, especially if you enjoy sharing your dance videos—it’s a great way to stay inspired and engaged outside of class.
3. Eyes up, phones down
When it comes to finding a community as an adult, body language speaks volumes. If you’re always looking down at your phone, it sends the message that you’re not open to conversation. Eye contact is one of the easiest ways to connect with someone—so give yourself the opportunity. While waiting in the lobby before class, put your phone away, look around, and take the opportunity to strike up a conversation with fellow dancers. Keep in mind that others might be feeling just as nervous and may be using their phones as a way to avoid awkwardness. A simple hello or a friendly comment about class could be all it takes to get things rolling and help someone feel more at ease.
These small actions can also help signal that you’re approachable and open to conversation:
Make it a habit to look up and scan the room before class starts.
Offer a friendly nod or smile when you make eye contact with someone.
Resist the temptation to immediately check your phone during breaks.
4. Smile
It sounds simple, but a smile is one of the most powerful tools to meet new people through dance class. Smiling makes you appear more approachable, friendly, and inviting. Plus, it naturally boosts your mood. Try smiling at the person next to you before class starts or during a water break. You’d be surprised how often a smile can turn into a conversation.
5. Start a conversation
If you’re unsure how to start a conversation in dance class, here are a few easy ways to break the ice:
Ask a question: “Have you taken this class before?” or “How long have you been dancing?”
Give a genuine compliment: Compliments are a great way to connect. Something as simple as “I love your shoes!” can start a friendship.
Comment on the obvious: “Wow, that routine was intense!” or “That song choice was so fun!”
Embrace your mistakes: “I totally missed that part, what was the step?” Don’t be afraid to ask a fellow dancer for guidance if you get lost.
Remember, you don’t have to be best friends right away—small talk can lead to deeper connections over time.
6. Support others while they dance
One of the best ways to build community in dance class is to uplift those around you. Encouragement goes a long way in helping people feel seen and appreciated.
Clap for others when they nail a move.
Smile and give a thumbs-up after someone finishes a tough combo.
Say, “Great job!” or “That was awesome!” directly to another dancer after a run-through.
Offer to film someone if you see them setting up their phone on the floor.
At Powerhouse, we foster a community where we support and cheer each other on. When we break into groups, we always make sure to clap and hype up those performing. That energy creates a positive and motivating environment where everyone feels encouraged to give their best. We also love seeing dancers collaborate—if your group is up next, don’t hesitate to ask a classmate to record your turn. Not only is it a great way to review your progress, but it also strengthens connections by involving others in your dance journey.
By cheering for and supporting each other, you’ll naturally build dance class friendships and feel more connected to the dance community.
Build lifelong connections at Powerhouse
Making friends as an adult in dance class doesn’t have to be intimidating. By being intentional, putting your phone away, smiling, and starting small conversations, you’ll create opportunities to connect with others.
Even if you’re not looking for a new best friend, small, in-person interactions can brighten your day and make dance class even more enjoyable. At Powerhouse Dance, we believe in the power of community, and we encourage you to take the first step in building connections—both on and off the dance floor.
Have you made friends through dance? Share your experience in the comments!
Written by Rachel Ehrenberg, Powerhouse Dancer